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Caroline's avatar

Good heavens — another arrow through my heart. Right through my heart.

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Debra Fried's avatar

And your comment put one right through mine. Thank you.

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Barbara Joan's avatar

Hits very close to home. My mom was fiercely independent, and yet in the last couple of years of her life, it was I who was buttoning her coat up.Your writing is very moving.

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Debra Fried's avatar

Thank you, so much! I appreciate your empathy - I guess it's rather beautiful to get to button the coat of one who's buttoned yours, but it hurts at the same time.

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Jacqueline Leak's avatar

Ohhhh my heart. My mom too. I wish there were a cure for broken hearts. So touching and moving. I can hear both your and mom voices and also your dads. Beautifully written.

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Debra Fried's avatar

Thank you so much, Jackie! What a beautiful way to say it - "I wish there were a cure for broken hearts." I do too. xx

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Gayle Stafsky's avatar

WOW!!! I can say not more right now Debbie!!!

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Dave M's avatar

Absolute genius, Debra! Having just lost my Dad last Feb., who also suffered from Dementia, this really spoke to me. Sweet/Sad & super-poignant!…And “polyester lily pads”?!!! The. Perfect. Phrase., (if I may steal your formatting from a previous text ; )

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Debra Fried's avatar

You. Certainly. May. Thank you. xx

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Sarah's avatar

Grandma <3

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Kenny C's avatar

Great writing Deb, really enjoyed it. Reminds me in some ways of my mother's last couple of years before she died at 96 last year. Your mom though was much more involved than mine during her prime years. Much to be thankful for. Happy you still have her in your life. :-)

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Debra Fried's avatar

I remember you talking about your mother with a mixed bag of emotion but mainly with affection and admiration. Thank you for subscribing!

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Debra Fried's avatar

Also - I’m sorry you lost your mom.

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Kenny C's avatar

Thank you Deb, and for remembering this. I think we're both big rememberers (what a word!) Look forward to reading more (not)newsletters.

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Debra Fried's avatar

Thank you so much, Nancy! That means so much to me. xx

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